One of the main things you will want to do in any relationship, whether it has been going for five years or five minutes, it to keep it happy. This is easier said than done. Obviously it takes two to tango, and compromising and being happy with the other person’s happiness is paramount to keeping a relationship healthy. If you find your relationship is starting to strain, then consider what you might be able to do to change that, by changing your own behavior and talking to your partner about the behavior of both of you in the relationship.Whenever I am asked for relationship advice, it nearly always boils down to one thing – honesty. The more honest people are within their relationship, about where they see the relationship going, their own wants and desires, and what problems they might be having, the more stable the relationship and the more healthy the partnership is over time.Here are my few tips for keeping a relationship on the right track and making a happy couple.
Often one member of the relationship is the one that takes more interest in how the relationship is going and wondering whether everything is OK. Generally this is the female partner. So, guys, it is time to man up. A relationship really needs both people pulling their weight and, while there are times when one person will be more dominant, overall it needs to be that both people will take responsibility for the relationship.
Admit When You Are Wrong
Along with taking responsibility for the relationship as a whole, you also have to take responsibility for yourself and your own actions. Relationships break apart over seemingly trivial problems, all because someone wasn’t able to admit that they were wrong. This stubbornness can really kill a relationship, and if you find yourself unable to say sorry, even for small things, then it is you that is killing your relationship.Of course, sometimes major indiscretions in a relationship can also lead to people having to apologize. If you are in the wrong, and are able to identify it, then you should immediately be able to say sorry. It might be that there are deeper lying problems within the partnership, but until that small word is said, there can be no moving on.The most difficult people to contend with are the ones who are unable to even see that they are supposed to apologize. These are the most difficult to deal with, and if you find your relationships constantly breaking down, then you are probably one of these people. Start by thinking every day about what you might have done to annoy your partner and saying sorry for it, no matter how small. These small apologies will allow you to reassess you behavior and start towards stopping having to say sorry at all.
Don’t Keep It All Inside
A big issue, particularly among men, is not being open about your feelings and about the relationship in general. If you keep things inside all the time, then they are inevitably going to burst out at one time, normally in a flood of recrimination that your relationship might not survive.To counter this, make sure you are talking to your partner about your problems. These might be simple problems at work, or something you are not happy about in your life, but not necessarily the relationship. Partners are there to listen and to share your burdens, so use them like that.Some people do not like to be seen as moaning all the time, and men especially want to be the strong, silent type. But in reality, the problems of the world do mount up and everyone needs a release. Of course you should not complain every day about your partner not doing the dishes, but venting once in a while about smaller things makes sure that the relationship stays healthy and everyone knows exactly who needs what.